So often our inner monologs become our Twitter handles.
I'm so guilty of this.
For my teen years I lived in a house with just my mom and me. There was never a filter. My mom and I watched Gilmore Girls and soon began to talk as fast and as recklessly as Lorelei... Well I did, Mamma Linda is smarter than I.
In college, one of the quickest and most important lessons I've had to learn is that no one knows my whole life story, and that's okay.
I hate this lesson.
I have always prided myself in being an open book. Most of the relationships I've had have gotten to skip over the 'small talk section' and delve right into the deep stuff. I knew everyone who I was friends with and had known a lot about the people I dated before I dated them.
That's not how it is here, so I feel like I have to compensate.
I honestly think one of the worst feelings in the world is realizing you've gone too far. You've made someone uncomfortable with the information you just unloaded onto them. They can now judge you harshly and honestly because they know. When I realize that my tongue has run out in front of my brain again, I always look for comfort in my Bible.
But there are a ton of verses about filtering or keeping quiet. And they're in the Bible, so you know God knew there was going to be some struggles with this.
"He who guards his mouth and his tongue keeps himself from calamity" Proverbs 21:23
"He who guards his lips guards his life, but he who speaks rashly will come to ruin" Proverbs 13:3
"A fool gives full vent t his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control" Proverbs 29:11
Okay, I said the Bible and I only quoted Proverbs. Oops. I promise, the entire bible talks about holding the tongue, Proverbs just really stood out to me tonight.
But, as a critical thinker- you have to wonder why filtering and not shouting about everything is so prevalent in the Bible. God says "do not be afraid" 365 times and that's obviously important, so why is filtering?
I think God discloses information and opens us up when we need it.
If you've ever sat in a lecture where the teacher simply drones on and on and on about facts you already know or things that won't be on the test, you tune her out. Or fall asleep. Every day life is no different. When a friend asks for help that can come in a single 'yes' or 'no' answer and you answer her back with a monolog, she isn't going to be sat at the edge of her chair, she'll probably disregard your opinion.
God wants us to help each other and be there in times of need, but he doesn't want us to always pull out the instruction manual and read it front to back.
Does that mean that every situation you get in should be answered with 'yes' or 'no'? Heck no!
See what I did there?
But no, some topics should be answered with a monologue. If I ask why you're a Christian, you shouldn't just say, "yeah, I'm a Christian". You'd sound dense. You need to express your opinion and maybe even tell your story some. God knows we need to express ourselves with words. It is so healthy to share things with people you trust, maybe just not everyone on your hall.
I know what you might be thinking, "isn't this the girl that just typed out her entire depressing testimony and posted it on the internet?" or maybe you've seen me around campus and know that I'm always talking. Yes, and I'm working on that. When God tells me to share things like my testimony, I'm going to listen to him. But when I realize I shared maybe too much about how I know I'm lactose intolerant or what I really thought about the Convocation speaker, God reels me back in.
So, be bold, be wise, and let the Lord control your tongue and you can't go wrong.